In Antioch, Timothy Demetrios Ilacqua passed into eternal life, Sept. 22, 2019, surrounded by his loving family.
Timmy was born in Oakland on June 26, 1953, raised in Alameda, graduated Alameda High School in 1971 and resided in Antioch for the past 14 years.
He was a loving father to his two daughters, Joy Ilacqua and Danielle Ilacqua-Scales and best friend to Tamy Ilacqua (former wife). He was a loving grandpa to his eight grandchildren: Acacia Tillery, 20; Daija Bartholomew, 18; Dionntae Scales, Jr. 14; Alonzo Tillery, 15; Danaya Scales, 12; Jeleah Boer, 11; Sierra Boer, 7; Demetrios Scales, 6 and great-granddaughter, Na’Riyah Mack, 10 months.
Timmy was preceded in death by his twin brother, Tommy in 2005 and his loving parents Santo (2002) and Mary Ilacqua (1981).
Timmy was the second of five children. He is survived by his sisters Donna Helling (Robert) and Karen Ilacqua (Tony Woodd) and brother Gino Ilacqua (Denise) as well as nieces and nephews: Dena and Lauryn Helling, Anthony Woodd, Tiffany Johnson, Ryan Ilacqua and Alyssa Sullivan and nine great-nieces and -nephews. He also leaves behind: two aunts, an uncle and an enormous amount of loving cousins and many dear friends.
A doting grandfather, Timmy’s greatest joy was being surrounded by his grandchildren, laughing, dancing and relishing in the time spent caring for them and watching them grow.
Earlier in life, his other greatest joy was golf. As kids, twin brothers Timmy and Tommy played golf with passion in middle and high school. They also played baseball at Godfrey Park with the original Godfrey Gophers and later with St. Philip Neri. Timmy and Tommy were inseparable until Tommy’s death in 2005. Timmy found the love with his grandchildren that carried him on, enriching his life until the end of his days.
A memorial mass for Timmy D. Ilacqua will be held in his honor this Saturday, Oct. 19, at 11 a.m. at St. Philip Neri Church, 3100 Van Buren St.
A reception and potluck will immediately follow at Godfrey Park, 281 Beach Road, on Bay Farm Island.
On Sept. 30, 2019, loving wife and mother of four, Barbara Kay Werner (nee Kelly), 72, passed away. Barbara was born Oct. 15, 1946, in Roswell, N.M. to Col. James Richard Kelly and Irene (Ingalls).
She received her bachelor’s degree in textiles from Texas Tech in 1969 and worked as an artist throughout her life, gaining recognition for her pottery, stationery and house stamps in the San Francisco Bay Area.
On June 20, 1970, she married Milt Werner in Austin, Tex. They raised four children: Kelly, Mike, Gretchen and Matt who all graduated from UC Berkeley. Go Bears!
She is survived by her three brothers: Mike, Tom, and Jim as well as four grandchildren: Micaela and Austin (children of Mike and Diana), and Charlotte and Emmeline (children of Gretchen and Brian Drake).
Barb first met Milt when they were 10 years old at St. Peters School in Roswell. Milt would walk her home, carrying her books from school in junior high and high school. They remained close throughout college and right after they graduated, they got married and moved to California.
Barb and Milt lived in Alameda from the early 1970s until 1995 while Milt was an educator. They lived in the South Bay from 1996 to 1998 and Oakland and Berkeley from 1998 to 2018. They moved to Belvedere to be near their grandchildren in 2018.
Barbara was a devout Catholic, involved in multiple parishes in the Bay Area. One of the highlights of her life was receiving an audience with the Pope on a Rome and Holy Land trip she and Milt took in 2012. She gave so much love to everyone she met. She remembered nearly every birthday and anniversary and would send cards and handmade gifts.
She loved many things in life, including: family, friends, the Kennedys, the Beatles, Elvis, cocktail parties, sailing, visiting Paris, brightening people’s days with heartfelt homemade gifts, Harriet’s cookies, sewing baptismal gowns for Newman Hall in Berkeley, helping set up prom each year at UC San Francisco Medical Center for terminally ill patients in high school who couldn’t leave the hospital, as well as caring for sick children at UCSF.
Over the past 40 years in the Bay Area, Barbara was involved in the St. Francis Yacht Club, Catholic Charities, UC Berkeley’s International House, Claremont Park Book Club, Cal Parents, San Francisco Symphony, UCSF Benioff Children’s Hospital, St. Jude’s and the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, among many other organizations, schools and charities.
As a member of the Alvarado Road Artists Group, she had her pottery shown and sold at art galleries and stores in Northern California and Carmel. She’s known for large, beautifully hand-painted salad bowls and her French-inspired line of dishes, which she made by hand in her studio in Berkeley.
Prior to pottery, she made bears, silkscreen art, stationery, gift tags, house stamps and dresses. For many years she was employed by UC Berkeley’s athletic department as a graphic artist making displays for their Hall of Fame and creating beautiful awards using her calligraphy penmanship.
Barbara had a dynamic personality that lit up every room she walked into. She made everyone feel welcome and important as she worked her way through a room greeting all. Often she was the last person to leave an event or activity because of her tremendous love of life and her friends.
Her memorial Rosary will take place tomorrow, Friday, Oct. 11, at 6 p.m. A Catholic funeral mass will be held at noon this Saturday, Oct. 12. Both will take place at St. Hilary’s, 761 Hilary Dr., Tiburon, CA 94920. The mass will be followed by a reception at Tarantino Hall, which is attached to St. Hilary’s Church.
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital at www.stjude.org/donate in memory of Barbara Werner.
Eric James “Jim” Ludwig, 79, died Sept. 29, 2019, at home following a long struggle with multiple system atrophy.
He leaves his wife of almost 53 years, Doreen; children: Rich, Wil, Joe, Bob, Alice and Melanie; brother Bob and sister, Joyce, along with many grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
After falling in love with Doreen and kids, Jim moved his family to Alameda, providing a beautiful home for more than 50 years. He was an accomplished automobile mechanic, specializing in brakes.
Jim was an avid Raiders fan through thick and thin. For many years, he could be found on Thursday nights at the 19th Hole — drinking a cold beer and playing darts. He loved a fun game of poker with family and winning at cribbage. Jim also enjoyed a challenging game of pool and solving the San Francisco Chronicle’s daily Jumble word puzzle. Dad was always easy to buy a Christmas or birthday gift for — he always appreciated a good book, the latest from Dean Koontz or Stephen King, a bottle of Jack Daniels, lottery tickets or a carton of his favorite smokes.
Visitation will be held today, Thursday, Oct. 10, from 4 to 8 p.m., followed by a funeral service tomorrow, Friday, Oct. 11, at 11 a.m. — both at Greer Family Mortuary, 2694 Blanding Ave.
Editor’s note: The 19th Hole was a popular bar formerly located at High Street and Encinal Avenue. It was known for frequent visits from Oakland Raiders players and fans.