1923 – 2020
By the time she reached the age of ninety seven, my Mother had outlived everyone in her immediate generation. She was preceded in death by her parents, all of her siblings and their respective spouses, her husband of sixty three years, and also her son. She was also preceded by her parents in law, as well as her brother in law and sister in law, plus their spouses. Sadly, she also outlived two nephews, a niece in law, a granddaughter, and an infant great grandson.
She is survived by her daughters, six grandchildren, sixteen great grandchildren, and one great-great grandson, plus numerous nieces, nephews, and their families. Most of this surprising number of descendants and extended kinfolks live in various locations that are not nearby, so her life recently was relatively quiet.
I, the daughter, have spent significant amounts of time with her in the past several years, and have stayed in her home with her since shortly before the Covid pandemic extended my visit by many months.
The day before Christmas, my Mother did not wake up as usual, to begin her day. She had passed in the night into her eternal home.
While of course I miss her a great deal, I am comforted that she was granted her two wishes as to the end of her earthly life. First, she was able to live in her own home, and not have to be someplace that would be strange to her.
And second, she often said that if she got her wish, she would go to bed one night, and just not wake up in the morning. And so it was. We had a normal conversation Wednesday night, and the next time I saw her, she was no longer bound to inhabit a ninety seven year old body.
Yes, we knew that one day we would lose her, but I’m sure that one is never really ready. And so, we move on, and cherish the memories.
Those of you that knew her undoubtedly have some precious memories of my very precious Mother. We will be able to look back and be glad she was in our lives, and one day I look forward to seeing her in Heaven.
Greer Family Mortuary & Cremation Services FD-1408
March 30, 1919 – April 2, 2021
Resident of Alameda
The world lost a ray of sunshine when Dorothy died on April 2, 2021. She passed quickly and gently with loved ones by her side. She will be missed by many people.
After a long and blessed life, Margaret O’Hara, 99, died peacefully in Oakland on Holy Thursday, April 1. An Oakland native and longtime Alameda resident, Marge was born on Aug. 11, 1921, to Patrick and Gertrude Murphy.
An only child, she was a proud alum of St. Anthony’s Elementary School and St. Elizabeth’s High School, where she developed lifelong friendships. Upon graduation, she worked for the telephone company.
In 1947 she met Jim O’Hara, the love of her life, at a St. Patrick’s Day dance at the Oakland City Club. They were married the following year and after living in Oakland and Santa Rosa, they settled into their home of 60 years in Alameda.
Marge’s life was centered around her Catholic faith, her family, and her friends. She was a devoted daughter, a beloved wife, a cherished mother, a treasured grandma, a loving aunt and Godmother, and a dear friend to many.
She is pre-deceased by her loving husband of 40 years, Jim, and their infant daughter, Carol.
She is survived by daughters Patty O’Hara of South Bend, Indiana, Maureen O’Hara of Menlo Park, Kerry O’Hara Plain of Alameda and grandson Jimmy Plain of Alameda.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated tomorrow, Friday, April 23, at 11 a.m. at St. Philip Neri’s Catholic Church, 3100 Van Buren St., Alameda. Per COVID regulations, the church will allow 25% capacity. Registration is recommended and masks will be required.
Donations in Marge’s name can be made to St. Joseph’s Notre Dame High School, 1011 Chestnut St., Alameda, CA 94501 or St. Vincent de Paul Dining Room, 675 23rd St., Oakland, CA 94612.
And until we meet again, Mom and Dad, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.